Sadly, fuckboys don’t walk around with a sign on their head – I wish they did. One of their most irritating features is their ability to come across as such a nice guy… and by the time you realise the truth, it’s too late. You’re hooked and you’ve invested time, money and emotions into them.
Any girl who has waded through the swamp of dating knows that in today’s world, the chances of meeting a fuckboy is about the same as walking past a Pret-A-Manger in central London.
Before you get yourself full-on hooked onto a fuckboy, it is imperative that you pick up on signs and hints of said fuckboyism. Is this a toxic relationship? If you answer ‘yes’, ‘omg he does that!’ or ‘ah, yeah that’s true’, to three or more of the following, don’t ignore it or feign ignorance! Throw that dude in the bin.
1. He only sees you or speaks to you when it’s convenient for him.
2. All talk and no do: They say they’d like to see you, but never initiates an actual date yet continuously messages you.
3. He expects you to come to him, or to arrange seeing him, or make the effort.
4. He ‘doesn’t like labels’ and ‘wants to take things slow’. If you approach the subject of exclusivity or ask if he’s seeing anyone else, he avoids answering and says something vague or off-topic.
5. He’ll go AWOL for hours on end, or days without you hearing from him, and when he finally appears he acts like it’s a perfectly okay thing to do and gives no apology or explanation. Sorry, babe, I don’t want someone who’s going to do a disappearing act on me.
6. He will always tell you what you want to hear. Or make you feel like the crazy one for bringing up if something is wrong, or if you want something more.
7. He doesn’t like the taste of his own medicine, For example, if he ignores you for hours and you do the same back, he kicks off.
8. He doesn’t make time for you and hits you with the ‘I’m really busy’ line when he’s been active on multiple social media channels and messaging services.
9. You have no idea who he’s constantly messaging, but they are definitely not all his mates…
10. Your dates consist of lots of Netflix and chills: he doesn’t like being seen in public with you.
11. He describes all of his exes as ‘crazy’, ‘psycho’, or obsessed with putting a label on the non-relationship.
12. You don’t exist as part of his life according to social media, and he actively avoids having photos with you or being tagged as with you. Or even acknowledge you tagging him in something on social media.
13. He will point out when you look tired, or not looking as good as you ‘should’ be. Or making general negative comments about your appearance which are ‘just jokes’. No, they’re not.
Never settle for the inevitable crap, disappointment and ultimate heartbreak which will happen if you continue on this treacherous course…
There are plenty of genuine, amazing and nice guys who will treat you right, forget this one and move on!