As a Size 14-16 woman, sure I’m pretty happy with how I look – chunk and all – but sometimes, with so many photos of supermodels slapping me in my face on Instagram 24/7, it’s perfectly normal to feel self-conscious every now and again about the size of your muffin tops, or in my case, my cake shelf. We all know that the key to looking and feeling good is living a healthy, active lifestyle, but this is real life – and sometimes – life just gets in the way.
Unfortunately, we’re an instant generation, meaning that generally speaking, if we want something we can get it straight away – which is great for me as I’m extremely impatient. For example, hungry? JustEat. Watch vines? YouTube. So, where shedding a few pounds is concerned, it takes a little more than a simple decision to do it, but is it always the answer you’re looking for. That’s right, one of our biggest insecurities we face whether we’re dating or in a relationship, is our…
Whether you’re a Size 10 or a Size 22, or anything above and below, we’re ALL self-conscious at some point or another about how much we weight, and how our bodies look, but should we really be so concerned with the number on the scales and what size clothes we wear?
In my humble opinion, you should only really be concerned about your happiness. I’m not trying to come across as a hippy here but give me a minute. Is it truly your weight that is making you unhappy, or is it something a bit more deep routed and you’re trying to find a way to bury it and cover it up? Maybe you’re in a shitty relationship or having a stressful time at work, and when there are other factors making you feel like total crap, the first person you blame is yourself. And from this, you just start to nitpick at minor things you consider to be imperfections to give yourself a distraction from the real reasons. Or maybe you know the reason and it’s people in your life are making you feel bad about your size, maybe a partner, or like me, you had a “friend” who made you feel crap about yourself. And if they do? Bin. Them. Off. Now. You don’t need that negativity in your life, and let’s be honest no one treats others like that who they truly care about.
However, if you’re certain that it’s your weight that’s getting you down – and not outside influences, you’ve got 2 options; the first is to do something about it. So – by doing something about it – I mean that you’ve decided that enough is enough, your body is your temple and just now, it’s more like ruins. Sure, there’s about a million and one fad diets out there but the long and the short of it is that if you want to lose some weight to regain your self-esteem, there are a few standard, successful ways to go about it. Of course, a healthy non-indulgent diet is a no-brainer alongside regular exercise, and there are also safe, effective weight loss treatments that can give you a great head start too. These things combined will set you on your way to a healthy weight loss journey which will take you to a point where you’re totally content with your appearance.
The second option is to make the most of it and embrace your body (my favourite option). You may have a little more on your love handles than you might want, but perhaps you’re not as unhappy with your size as you think. One thing to consider is the way you take care of your appearance – so what if you’re chunky yet funky or skinny and mini! Are you dressing for your figure? As I know for a FACT that I could not wear the same clothes as a short, size 8 woman would simply because they wouldn’t suit my figure and I’d probably look like a sausage. So, perhaps think about your best features (of which you have many if you really think about it) and work out ways to dress and accessorize (and even do your hair and make-up) to accentuate these features. The more you accept that “this is me”, the more confident you become and let’s face it, THAT leads to happiness which is the end goal here. And let’s be honest, confidence is sexy.
There’s no such thing as bad size or a wrong size, whether you’re big, small, little, large, petite size, plus size, what really matters is what will put a smile on your face. When it comes to dating and relationships, the same applies. And if someone doesn’t like you the way you are, sack them off! Sure, everyone has their preference when it comes to aesthetics but in the end, it all comes down to who you are and how you show yourself off. If you’re feeling crap about how you look under your outfit, chances are you’re a under-the-covers-lights-out-half-dressed-whilst-having-sex kinda gal. I say no, enough of this. Strip right off, leave that light on and go for it! You are who you are, and the more confident and happy you are with yourself, the easier you’ll find the whole dating process and totally being yourself with your significant other – clothes on or off.